STOP: Curvy and Wanted!
So you say your man left you because you are “too thick?” Relationships are tough enough on their own without having all the other confusion to go along with it. So you have a little more curves than the next person! I know you have heard this a million times; well here’s a million and one, if a man truly wants you, he wants you and only; no exceptions or excuses. Listen, you did not become thick overnight and more than likely you were thick when you met him. Two important factors to remember is, when your mate starts to focus or zoom in on your imperfections, there is something that he is unhappy about himself or his interest is elsewhere, so he needs an excuse to cut the ties with you. I know it’s not right, but it’s true. Now we can do this two ways, one let him stay gone or two repair the relationship. Look, I know it’s hard to let go of something you put a lot of investment into, but if that investment is losing value, it’s time to close the account. If you decide to stay, arrange some alone time with your mate and ask questions. Have these questions already prepared and keep it short and sweet. Remember men will start to drift if you lose their attention with long drawn out questions. Your questions should consist of:
- Why is my weight an issue now?
- Is the issue really my weight?
- Are you interested in someone else?
Be prepared, you may not like the answers to some of these questions, but at least you will know what your next move should be. It is important to remember, there is nothing wrong with compromising for a more healthier you, however, if the compromises presented consistently include YOU ONLY, do not keep changing everything about yourself because this person will never be satisfied no matter how much you change. Either he loves who you are, the way you are, or he doesn’t You have to be confident enough to know that you are uniquely beautiful and wonderfully made no matter what size you are. You must keep this confidence prevalent in everything you do. Here’s a Poem from my book (Rejuvenational Freedom). Until next time, keep it Curvy!
I am unique
As God has made me to be
My face, hair and build
None exact you see
Uniquely designed to add to life’s existence
Taught by the best teacher
Who’s strong, powerful and realistic
Uniquely made, no clone
Can be duplicated
This design my God has made
Has perpetuated a superiority
From my eyes to my nose
And down to my curvaceous hips
I am proud of His blueprint of me
For it is not like anyone else’s
Now that’s a victory
From my fingerprints to the way
My back dips
From my caramel skin
To my beautiful full lips
I was designed as a representation
From the top of my head to the bottom of my feet
No imperfections in His eyes
As it relates to everything about me
Including my physic
For I am wonderfully made
©Poetry and writing by: Felecia Adams